Believe it or not, this used to be one of our biggest arguments.
When we first moved in together, we used to go back and forth all. the. time. about having a TV in our bedroom. One of us was for it, and one of us was strongly against it. In the interest of not having anyone choose a side, we won’t tell you who was who, but you can probably guess if you think about it long enough ;).
Fast forward to today and it’s (luckily) not even a discussion anymore because, as you can see, one of us got his way and we’ve settled on having one on our dresser DIRECTLY IN FRONT OF our bed. To be honest, we rarely watch TV in our room anyway (we do most of that in the living room) but for those nights that we are too lazy to make the four-room trek from the living room to our bedroom, it sure does come in handy. But just for fun, why don’t we revisit our POV’s way back when to really get down to the bottom of this once and for all.
In the “no TV in the bedroom” corner, his argument was the bedroom should be a place of serenity, relaxation, and peace, with little to no distractions, other than your significant other. He also believed that time in the bedroom with your spouse should be spent talking, cuddling, or having sex. In his mind, watching television is an activity best spent outside the room your share with your S.O. These were his thoughts back then, and while he doesn’t totally disagree with them today, he doesn’t feel as strongly as he once did.
In the “um of course we will have a TV in the bedroom why wouldn’t we?” corner, his argument was that one of his favorite activities to do with his husband is to get cozy and cuddle up and watch TV/movies together. Sometimes the best part of the day was doing just that, and the thought of not being able to relax and unwind at the end of a long day in front of the TV in bed was just not gonna cut it.
And this right here is the perfect example of two different human beings coming together to share a life and trying to make it work. Isn’t marriage fun?
But alas, one of us decided this fight was just not worth it anymore, so he dropped it, accepted it, and let his husband have his way. And you know what? He found out the TV wasn’t really taking away anything by being in the bedroom like he thought it would. It didn’t necessarily add anything either, but it wasn’t that bad, and his husband was happy, and suddenly, he was, too. After being with someone for a while, you realize you have to pick your disagreements very carefully and decide what you can and can’t live with. And once you’ve mastered this, don’t be surprised if your marriage lasts forever.
What about you? If you share a room with your significant other, do you have a TV in your bedroom? Why or why not?